The One that Got Away

Recently, a love letter written by Philippine actor Aga Mulach for previous love team Lea Salonga circulated like wildfire in social media. This love letter entitled, “To The One Who Got Away”, embodies love not reciprocated, love never known and love never declared. This is the kind of love one has regretted but really never existed. 

I may have been talking about a person, but when it relates to me, I’m talking about passion. Each person has his own dream, but not everyone fulfills their dream. It can be marriage, financial success, or a love to last for a lifetime.  Most of the time, deep in our hearts, we have a dream that people around us normally don’t believe we can do. That is my story and I’m sharing a dream I have that I consider as the One that Got Away.

Three years ago, I joined the product development team of our company. I was a newbie when I joined the department but I was determined to know everything. I helped my manager with our e-learning development project, and eventually, I was given the chance to handle it myself. Most of our products are e-learning materials so within that span of time, I got interested with e-learning development, project management and most especially, instructional design.

Ever since after graduation, it is my dream to take a Master’s degree abroad. But I don’t know what particular field I’ll study. I’m interested to pursue a graduate degree related to instructional design, elearning development and product development but none of these are available here in the Philippines back then. 

So,  I upgraded my dream. I applied for slots in US and UK universities offering graduate degrees in Instructional Design, Interactive Design, Interactive Media and User Experience Design. I was able to get into the universities, but without a scholarship, I won’t be able to fully support myself. 

Hence, I consider this dream to study abroad as the One that Got Away. I have this dream but it seems it’s not meant for me, at least not yet. I still wanted to take a graduate degree so I think I’ll explore here first in PH. Maybe you also have your own version of the One who Got Away. If that’s the case, maybe you can also share your own version.

PS: You know what I did with this opportunity that never really existed? I accepted my fate. If we’re on the same page, here’s my suggestion:

Move on. Live life. 
Learn. Inspire. Flourish. Explore.

Learn from your mistakes.

Inspire other people with your stories.

Flourish where you are planted. Grow.

Explore the world around you. The world is a better place if we enjoy it.

What is God’s Purpose in your Life?

As I was reading my Bible, I am reminded that whatever plans I have, if it is not under God’s will, it will not prevail.

As what is said in Proverbs 16:1-4 (MSG),

I realized four things just reading this verse:

1. It will be useless to start planning and executing everything if we don’t put God first.

There will always come a time when we will feel so tired doing projects, expecting gains from our investments and constantly rendering overtime to work for our dreams. We are humans and we cannot do everything at once. What is more disappointing is if you’ve invested so much effort then at the end of the day, you’ll never get what you worked for. This is for this reason King Solomon wanted us to put God first in everything. Why? Because God has the last say, and if that is the case, we might want to plan with the person who has the last say in mind.

2. We dwell on the outer circumstances, but God focuses on our intentions. 

I always say yes to those that I see are right, or those that would benefit me. But then, He digs deep to our intentions. Why are you doing the things you do right now? For attention? For recognition? For things that are temporary? He knows. But He cares.

3. Putting God first in our plans will allow us to see God’s hand move on our behalf. 

This becomes an assurance for me that I don’t always have to worry if after all the planning and executing I’ve done, the results are not what I expect to happen. Nor will I worry too much on how to execute the plans I have determined in my heart. Why? Because I know, at the end of it all, God will put everything in place.

4. God has a purpose for the small and big things that happen, even for judgment.

Everything is planned for and has consequences. It could be that appointment you received to sell your house that gave you a blessing you haven’t expected. Or that phone call you received to visit your parents because that could be the last time you’ll see them. Whatever it may be, God is giving us an idea that we are all weaved together for His plans, for better or for worse.

As I remember in another verse:

Romans 8:28 (NIV)

And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.


We may have different likes and interests. My chosen career may be different from yours. But definitely, where your heart is, there your treasure will be as well. If you learn to put God as the caretaker of your treasure, I’m sure He will guard it, make it grow and shine more, and lastly, give glory to His name. Afterall, we are created for His glory. He created us to give Him glory in everything we do.

That, I believe, is the purpose of my life and yours.